Random Relationship Rant (Featuring Marriage and the Thirst)

Posted: May 22, 2014 in Personal
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It is sad to see two people in a constant state of pain due to a lack of honesty. He wants her, she wants him but pride, fear and a general lack of communication keep them apart. If only one or the other had the courage to really say what was on their mind, they would find that the other person wished only that they had spoken up earlier. We allow the terror of what ifs to keep us from paying each other the simplest of compliments. The “thirst” is real, but so is an honest observation of beauty and the communication of such.

And, as if individual fears are not enough, there then come the societal decrees of how things should be done. You would not take stock advice from someone who has claimed bankruptcy twice, you wouldn’t ask someone to coach your team if all they’ve had are losing seasons, so why then would you allow a society that specializes in divorce to dictate how your relationship works? The same people who have little to no concept of what love is, the same people that marry because they are told it’s what you should do at a certain age, the same people who are on their 3rd wife or 2nd husband are usually the ones that dictate how things “should” be done. Fuck em. Each and every last one of them. They say marriage changes everything. If this is true, why would you get married? What is your end game? Do you wish to purposely change a relationship that is already great into something that is often compared to as a prison sentence? Who the hell would WILLINGLY PAY to do this? Do what makes you and yours happy. Don’t let other unhappy people jump in and tell you how it’s suppose to be done when they can’t get it right. And if you notice, if you do have a friend in a happy relationship, they will only SUGGEST that you try it their way out of an honest desire to see you happy. They’ll not pressure you or tell you you’re running out of time as if happiness runs on some imaginary clock.

A good relationship is difficult enough to find without allowing extra obstacles into the mix. Be you, be honest with yourself and communicate. You will either attract the right person or repel the wrong ones. There’s really no way you can lose. But hey, what do I know? I’ve just been with the same girl for 8yrs, she’s short, thick and light skin and plays video games. She’s not perfect or anything *shrug*.

  1. versusveritas says:

    I’ve been with the same person for 4 months and I feel like I’ve conquered Mt. Everest. I can’t imagine being with the same person for years. How do people do that? (I don’t serial date.. I just typically remain single.)

    • lol you keep falling in love. they do something and you have that moment of “that’s why i love her/him” and you fall in love all over again. I actually got into that before https://aosrantsandrhymes.wordpress.com/2013/12/18/oh-you-didnt-know-how-love-really-works/ Hope you enjoy that one too πŸ˜€

      • versusveritas says:

        I’ve never thought of it that way but I guess I usually end up with the opposite scenario. All is well until they do this or that one thing and I suddenly get a mental image of myself 1 year or 10 years down the road, watching them doing the same annoying thing and thinking to myself, “No. Not happening.” And that’s pretty much that.

        Then again, I think that if most people viewed their relationships in that way, no one would stay together very long. We’d all just move from one breakup to the next. πŸ˜‰

        I like your way much better. Here’s hoping something like that happens to me before I assume room temperature.

      • I def wish you the best. You’d be surprised what a slight tweak in your point of view can do πŸ˜€

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