There Are No Answers Here…

Posted: June 13, 2014 in Personal
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You love romantic comedies. No, you do, you don’t have to lie to me. The thing that we all get aggravated about when faced with reality is: what happens when the movie is over? What happens when the arguments happen? What happens when the honeymoon phase is over? The way you maintain a relationship is you continually fall in love over and over and over again. Once you don’t…it’s essentially over…whether you want to admit it or not.

Once you stop having the “this is why I love him/her” moments, the only thing that’s left is to fall. You fall into single, you fall into depression, you fall into a painful unavoidable sadness. Instead of falling in love, you focus so deeply on what things used to be and more than likely pray that you may get back there. But then, the question becomes, how long do you wait? Once you’ve said all the words and things don’t change…once you’ve done all you can do and things don’t change…how long do you wait for the stock to raise again? Do you truly believe that the 52week high/low of your relationship means that, eventually, you will get back to the golden age you were once in?

I guess you have to decide what it is that you want. You have to decide what’s missing and whether or not it’s something you can do for yourself or something you want from the other person. Do you want them to be more romantic? Say a couple lyrics of a song that means so much to you? Rub your back when it hurts? Do something sexy like jump in the shower with you without you having to ask? Or do you just want things to go back to how it was when you first got together? It’s funny…there are so many right answer and so few wrong answers, but the wrong answers are so goddamn wrong.  You will find yourself waiting for a new beginning or dreading the end.

You have two choices: wait or leave. Unfortunately, there are no other options. Once you’ve said all you can say, done all you can do, all you can do is wait or leave. You can adjust how you act and not give so much of yourself, but it’s only a band-aid on the real issue at hand. Face reality. Is this where you should be….or is it not…


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