I Respect You, I Just Don’t Like You

Posted: May 5, 2015 in Personal
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When I was younger, the concept of having any kind of respect for someone I didn’t like was unacceptable. Regardless of their accomplishments big or small, if I didn’t like em, they could go to hell. I like to think I’ve grown a bit since then and I’ve come to understand that you can approve of something someone has done even if that person is less than a shining example of what a human being should be. As of late, there have been a few examples:

Floyd Mayweather is a great boxer. For those that don’t agree, let me put it into simple terms: boxing is a sport in which one attempts to hit his opponent without being hit. Floyd does that and he does it well. There is a reason that other professional boxers, who attempt to do the same job as Mayweather, still fall to him. MY problem is not his skill in the ring. MY problem is the person he is outside of it. Regardless of how much money he has, Mayweather is just a generally shitty person. He’s egotistical, uneducated, and an overall terrible representative of not just black men, but humans as a whole. And to those that defend him simply because he has money and boxing talent, at some point, you should probably take a moment to reevaluate your priorities in life…as should Mayweather.

Jon Jones is a solid fighter. Not only was he one of the UFC’s youngest champions, but he did so in impressive fashion. He not only knocked opponents out, but they were inventive finishes that always excited the crowd. His natural ability is undeniable and his work ethic to improve is commendable. MY problem is not is skill in the octagon. MY problem is with the person he is outside of it. Several times he has risked all that he worked so hard for with drugs, drinking and generally self-destructive behavior. In more recent events, he was indefinitely suspended from the UFC and stripped of his Light Heavyweight Title after a hit and run accident. Really? I haven’t seen someone throw away their own hard work this fast since Aaron Hernandez. He was a young man getting money and stood as an example of what hard work and fitness could afford the youth, then turned right around and let them know that drugs are more important that everything he attained. I was never a fan, but it’s sad to see a young man sabotage himself like this.

Beyonce is an amazing entertainer. She can sing, she can dance, and she is clearly easy on the eyes. She’s been doing this for years and stands as the representative of my generation when it comes to R&B…whether I want her to or not. As the running gag continues, MY problem isn’t her ability on stage/in the studio. MY problem is who she is outside of it. She legit had her people try to get pictures taken off the internet because they were less than flattering. Yeah? Seriously? You are an idol of beauty in the black community and beyond and you flip your shit the ONE time you’re caught looking less than perfect? Fine, I’ll let it go. I think my bigger problem with the “Queen B” is the overall persona she feels is acceptable to convey to her audience. For every Halo and Countdown, there’s a 7/11 and Flawless. It is almost painful to hear such a powerful voice sing shitty, gutter lyrics that cause millions of girls and women to “smack it, smack it in the air”. No one can take her talent away, but it would be a wonderful thing to see her use her god given abilities and influence to sway the droves of people who follow her into a more positive light.

You don’t have to like everyone just because the masses do. A million Frenchmen can, indeed, be wrong. Let us not be blind haters though. Give respect where respect is due. If we all took even a quarter of the time we spend trying to find reasons to dislike other people and found something to respect about them, maybe we wouldn’t all be such dicks to each other all the time.


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